Suffering Alone at Christmas


“I feel the need to write this, despite it not being in the ‘Christmas spirit’ of the world these days. … 

I write this thinking about very specific (and, unfortunately, very many) people I know who are carrying heavy crosses on their shoulders, alone and in silence. I write this thinking of you, who are alone on hospital beds; you, who are trapped in your homes caring for your elderly parents; you, who have lost a loved one and feel the pain slowly suffocating you as Christmas draws closer; you, who look at your loved ones as they are stolen away by debilitating diseases, dementia or Alzheimer’s; you, who are abandoned by all in prisons; you, who are abandoned by all because you have lost one too many battles with alcohol or drugs; you, who could never recover from abuse, and for whom no one cared enough to really listen to you and help you get up and start again.

Christmas belongs to you, not to the world – have no doubt in your heart about that. Christmas is not about making merry with wine and gifts, putting our feet up and relaxing. Christmas is not ‘time off’, but the otherworldly joy of a Saviour who comes precisely for you. For you, who suffer. For you, who are alone. You are the reason for the Feast. Your pain is the reason for Christ’s Incarnation. Christ does not come to put His feet up and rest for a week – He comes precisely to start His Work of Salvation, His Ministry in the world.

Do not worry, and have no doubt. Christ is not of this world, and He comes precisely to transform (that is, to change) this world. Christ does hear. Christ does see. Christ does not even need you to reach out and beg for help, for He reaches out first and He begs you first to give Him your pain. Christ begs us to pile all our filth, all our sins, all our suffering on His Divine shoulders.

Christ does not come into the world at Christmas expecting to rest, but to act. Christ does not come to be pampered, but to start His journey to the Cross. The gifts He wants from you and I are precisely our sins, our loneliness, and our pain. He wants to take it all away from us, for He alone is Love.

I just want you, the ones burdened with pain, to know that you are not alone for Christmas. In the silence of your loneliness, in the emptiness of your homes, in the abandonment of all people, in the stories you are not allowed to tell and the images of pain you are not allowed to share – in all of it, you have Christ within you. At Christmas, the world will have Christmas trees, rich dinners and gifts, but you will have Christ as the Divine Guest of your heart. You will have the Source of Life in the cave of your being. I am in awe of you, I bless you, and I ask for your prayers that miraculous night.”


For the complete post by Hieromonk Seraphim Aldea visit his Mull Monastery blog

2 comments on “Suffering Alone at Christmas

  1. little abouna says:

    When you are praying alone, and your spirit is dejected, and you
    are wearied and oppressed by your loneliness, remember then, as
    always, that God the Trinity looks upon you with eyes brighter
    than the sun; also all the angels, your own Guardian Angel, and
    all the Saints of God. Truly they do; for they are all one in God,
    and where God is, there are they also. Where the sun is, thither
    also are directed all its rays. Try to understand what this means.

    St. John of Kronstadt

    Liked by 1 person

    • Thank you for this precious quote by St. John of Krostandt, especially today on his feast day. Indeed we should really “try to understand what this means”. Especially how near are all the Saints of God and how eager to help us. And what a difference it makes to go through suffering not alone, but being a part of the Body of Christ. And what a difference it makes not to stand by yourself, not to “believe” by yourself, but in the companionship of all the faithful through the centuries. What a mighty big family! And a huge source of encouragement and strength. Please see my next blog post “You Are Not Alone”.


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